Stop waiting for the text. Start feeling safe.
A research-based, deeply personal guide out of anxious attachment, written by someone who has been exactly where you are.
Paperback on Amazon · Ebook $9.99
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What’s inside
01.Understanding Anxious Attachment
Understand where your anxious attachment comes from. Explore its causes, signs and triggers, and see how your past shapes the way you love today.
02.The Power of Your Subconscious Mind
Discover how your subconscious and your self-concept shape your thoughts, choices and reactions, and spot the hidden patterns that keep you stuck in anxiety and overthinking.
03.Techniques to Rewire Your Brain
Learn practical, research-based techniques to rewire the patterns behind anxiety, confirmation bias and negative beliefs about yourself.
04.The Middle Way
Step away from emotional extremes and find your inner balance. Nervous system regulation, emotional regulation and impermanence help you meet insecurity with calm.
05.Writing Therapy
Guided writing prompts all through the book help you explore your inner child, your wounds and your needs, and rebuild a stronger sense of emotional security, page after page.
Readers are breaking the cycle
I finally understand why I react the way I do when someone goes quiet. And more importantly, what to do instead.
It reads like a friend who has been through it and did the research for you. I underlined half the book.
The chapter on protest behaviours was a punch in the gut, in the best way. I stopped double-texting within a week.
Clear, warm, zero judgement. I keep it on my nightstand for the bad nights.
I’ve read a lot about attachment. This is the first book that made me feel understood instead of diagnosed.
Practical, honest and surprisingly hopeful. My partner noticed the difference before I did.
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Hi, I’m Julie.
I wrote the book I needed after a toxic relationship left me anxious, hypervigilant and unsure of my own worth. Six years of therapy and a lot of research later, this is everything that actually helped.
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